TW!
(DV & bullying)
Hey fam. I’m really struggling at the moment and need some support and maybe some suggestions from you on how to deal with the following situation if you’ll be kind enough to spare a minute or two ❤️ please skip if you’re a sensitive soul just like myself ❤️
I have a colleague (magda) who I was really good friends with. Last year I learned her partner (ivan) was getting a bit physical with her. Magda was away at the time and we had him over. He himself told us he was getting physical with her and blamed it everything but himself. (His low blood sugar, the fact that magda was “yapping” at him) My husband and I couldn’t believe what we were hearing and immediately stood our ground and an argument ensued. After he left- I told magda and all she did was get angry at my husband and I for arguing with Ivan. Two weeks later they met with us and said actually nothing happened, nothing ever happened and we were bad friends. Ivan said the words “imagine going to your friends with a small problem and all they do is yell at you.” It’s obvious he sees this as a small problem - but my husband and I don’t! Also they banned us from telling anyone because “people talk and exaggerate things”. Since then she has been so snarky with me at work with horrible little comments here and there. It makes going to work so so difficult. It creates so much fear in me, and I feel as if she is bullying me.
Thank you for reading through all this, I love you fam. ❤️